Immaturitas Emosional dan Kesiapan Perkawinan Katolik: Relevansi Kanon 1095 terhadap Fenomena Relasi Red Flag di Kalangan Generasi Muda
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https://doi.org/10.59024/jipa.v4i4.2624Keywords:
Canon 1095, Emotional Immaturity, Marriage Readiness, Red Flag Relationships, Young CatholicsAbstract
The phenomenon of red flag relationships is increasingly popular in the discourse of young people, particularly through social media and digital dating culture, as a term used to identify patterns of relationships that indicate psychological problems, but which are not always recognized or taken seriously until the stage of marriage preparation. This condition indicates a gap between biological and legal maturity for marriage and the emotional maturity required to establish valid matrimonial consent. This article aims to analyze the relevance of Canon 1095 §§1–3 of the 1983 Code of Canon Law to the phenomenon of red flag relationships as a contemporary indicator of emotional immaturity that may affect the readiness and validity of Catholic marriage. This study employs a qualitative-descriptive literature review method with an interdisciplinary approach that integrates juridical-canonical, theological, and psychological perspectives through an examination of Sacred Scripture, the 1983 Code of Canon Law, Magisterial documents, and journal articles published within the last five years. The study shows that inconsistency in commitment, difficulties in emotional regulation, as well as possessive and manipulative tendencies have conceptual connections with defectus discretionis iudicii and incapacitas assumendi onera under Canon 1095 §§2–3. These findings affirm the importance of strengthening marriage preparation based on psychoeducation concerning emotional maturity for young Catholics.
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